(Photographs by Avran Ittyipe)
When I have to I want to:
Sadhana Nayak, 35, Keonjhar, Orissa
Biju Simon, 37, Thiruvananthapuram, Kerala
Chris Mukasa, Arthanas Matoonga and Pannavat Veeraburinon eager to set out on their own
For further information check out www.kanthari.org
When I have to I want to:
Sherin
Noordheen,
34, Thiruvananthapuram, Kerala
Pinching point: “My father committed
suicide when I was six years old. I grew up with that stigma. I too had
suicidal tendencies. I want to talk about it openly to remove the stigma around
suicides.”
Sherin who has a master’s in MSW, used
to work with IT companies before she quit to travel around the world. While
planning to start a cafe to help other people with suicidal tendencies she
heard about kanthari and her application was accepted. “I want to start a
travelling cafe called ‘Let’s Live Café’. I want to take it to the rural areas where people can walk in and share their problems over a cup of coffee.
What I found was that there is no societal support for young adults in Kerala
for depression and prevention of suicide. I would like to train volunteers and
the cafe would be a link between psychologists/psychiatrists and those with
depression. I want people to come out in the open and speak about their issues..”Sherin, a participant at Kanthari, is determined to realise her dreams.
Sadhana Nayak, 35, Keonjhar, Orissa
Pinching Point: “I was affected by
domestic violence for many years. I was prevented from working by my husband’s
conservative family even though I have a post graduate degree in English
Literature and MSW. I lost one child and now I am a single parent supporting a
child.”
Sadhana had learnt to steel herself to
deal with her personal problems. She prepared herself to stop the violence.
When her husband was unwell she was forced to work but when he recovered, her
husband’s family asked her to stop working. She says, “My husband was a bus
driver and I had become the state trainer by then and once he became well he
started to violently assault me. I want to help other women who are affected by
domestic violence. In the tribal areas of Keonjhar, domestic violence, sexual
harassment in the work place is common. These poor women never speak out
because they are afraid they will lose their jobs. I want to start an NGO that
would provide skill development to women, help them start Self-Help Groups
to make small products, tell them about personal laws, health education, sex
education, about their rights.”
Biju Simon, 37, Thiruvananthapuram, Kerala
Pinching Point: “I am a college dropout.
I also dropped out of the seminary. I want to educate children in shelter homes
and provide skill development.”
Simon moved from a vernacular medium to
English medium when he joined college for his economics degree. He could not
comprehend what was being taught and though he bought Malayalam guides they did not help much and he failed his subjects. He soon
stopped attending college. He later joined the seminary to become a priest and
found that was not his calling either. “While
working for a shelter home among orphans I found that though Kerala has high
literacy, the children of the shelter homes could not read or write. They would
go to the government school and sit on the back benches and back at the shelter
homes there would be no one to guide them. They don’t have the skills to get
meaningful employment either. At 18, they are thrown out of the shelter homes.
I know of many instances when these boys come back to the shelter homes but
they are not allowed in as the rules don’t permit them to. They stand at the
gates pleading with officials if they can be taken back in. They don’t have
jobs so they take to drugs, alcohol and thuggery. I plan to start a project
called Ether India (Clear Skies) where training is imparted to caretakers in
shelter homes. The children too pick up skills like photography, driving
etc...so they can be employable.”
Chris Mukasa, Arthanas Matoonga and Pannavat Veeraburinon eager to set out on their own
Chris
Mukasa, 29,
Kenya
Pinching point: “When I was 8 years old
I remember my father beating my mother. My father was a alcoholic. I had four
siblings and we were all hungry. There was no dinner and there my father was
beating my mother. I could not understand what was happening so I asked him
what he was doing. My father walked out of our home that night and never came
back. My mother and the five of us hugged each other tight and sang songs to
forget our hunger pangs.”
Mukasa
found solace in art. He started an art project called Fatuma’s voice. Fatuma
was a 50 year old woman who was unable to speak. The average person, according to Mukasa, speaks
20,000 words a day but Fatuma has not spoken for 50 years and she has millions
of words trapped within her. These words keep accumulating each day and if
nothing is done, she will become a time bomb ready to explode. “Fatuma is a
metaphor that represents Kenya, which gained independence about 50 years ago.Most
African youth like myself, have self-censored their voice and disengaged from
the process of social change. This is deep-rooted in a rigid colonial-based education
curriculum, unhealthy religious beliefs, and restrictive cultural ideologies. Fatuma's
Voice has been using art, poetry and music to reaffirm youth about the
importance of their voice and social participation but I found that it was
unable to instigate change in society. So now, at kanthari I am learning how to
transform this weekly forum into an intercontinental caravan that would
actually bring about change.”
Arthanas
Matongo,
44, Harare, Zimbabwe
Pinching Point: “My six sisters were
married off when they were just children way below the legal age of marriage.
When my best friend and childhood sweetheart was married off at the age of 15 to
an old man in my village, my heart broke. I want to start a project to end
child marriage in Zimbabwe.”
Arthanas has been an activist helping
his sister with her HIV project for nearly three decades. He is divorced and
also has in his care besides his own three children, his sister’s two children.
His sister died of AIDS and left her two children to his care. Another sister
committed suicide as a result of child marriage. “Polygamy and child marriage
is rampant in my village. I want to educate the people about this. These girls
are still children when they are married off. And they are beaten by their
husbands if they are found playing. I want to go back and try and change the
culture, the norms and behaviour of the people. Unemployment and poverty is a
problem so people get their daughters married off to get a bride price. In
Zimbabawe the girl’s family gets money for the bride. I have to also develop
their skills so people can find employment.”
For further information check out www.kanthari.org
(An edited version of this article was first published by Outlook Magazine)
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